Planning a bridal shower can be almost as exciting as the wedding itself, but if you’re unsure about who should host, what gifts are appropriate, or how to handle invitations, you’re not alone. Bridal showers might not have started as a traditionally Australian event, but they’ve found their place among modern pre-wedding celebrations. Whether you’re the bride, a guest, or the organiser, here’s everything you need to know about bridal shower etiquette in Australia.
Who traditionally hosts the bridal shower?
Traditionally, it’s the maid of honour, bridesmaids, or a close friend of the bride who takes the reins on the bridal shower. While mothers of the bride used to avoid hosting to prevent the appearance of asking for gifts, these days it’s common for the bride’s mum or even a sibling to host, particularly if they love planning events.
The most important thing is that the person hosting genuinely wants to celebrate the bride and has her preferences in mind. Group-hosted showers are becoming more popular too, with multiple bridesmaids or family members pooling resources to put together something special.
When should the bridal shower be held?
The sweet spot is about four to six weeks before the wedding. You don’t want it too close to the big day, when everyone’s busy with final plans, but you also want the excitement to feel fresh. If you’re inviting interstate guests, consider giving them plenty of notice or timing the event so it coincides with the hens night or other pre-wedding get-togethers.
Who gets an invite?
Only people who are invited to the wedding should be invited to the bridal shower. It’s considered poor form to invite someone to a pre-wedding event and not the main celebration.
The guest list usually includes close female friends and family such as aunties, cousins, future in-laws, work besties, and longtime mates. However, if the bride prefers a mixed-gender gathering or wants a more casual vibe, feel free to bend the tradition.
What’s the deal with gifts?
Yes, gifts are typically part of the bridal shower, but they don’t have to be over-the-top. Think thoughtful and useful rather than expensive. Many brides set up a smaller registry just for the bridal shower with items like lingerie, pamper sets, cookbooks or homewares. This makes gift-giving easier for guests and avoids duplication.
If you’re unsure, ask the host if there’s a registry or theme. Alternatively, a personalised present or handwritten letter with a memory or words of encouragement can mean just as much as anything you’d buy in-store.
Should the bride open gifts at the shower?
It’s customary, but not mandatory. Some brides feel awkward opening gifts in front of a crowd, while others enjoy it as part of the experience. If the bride does open presents, keep it low-key and relaxed. There’s no need for guests to loudly react to every tea towel or wine glass unless that’s the vibe.
Is there a dress code?
This depends entirely on the type of event. If you’re hosting a garden party, high tea or winery lunch, a smart-casual or dressy outfit is usually the go. If it’s an at-home brunch or backyard BBQ, keep it relaxed. The invitation should indicate the level of formality, but when in doubt, it’s always fine to ask the host.
One unspoken rule is to avoid wearing white unless the bride has said it’s okay or there’s a specific dress theme.
Can the bride be involved in planning?
Absolutely. Some brides want the whole thing to be a surprise, while others prefer to have input, especially when it comes to the guest list, food allergies, or party themes. It’s always worth checking in with the bride before making any major decisions. This event is meant to reflect her personality after all.
Do you need to play games?
Bridal shower games get a mixed reaction. Some people love them, others would rather skip them entirely. If you’re planning games, opt for light-hearted and inclusive ones like “How well do you know the bride?” or “Guess the love song lyric.” And if the bride is the shy type, it’s best to skip games that might put her on the spot.
Food and drink — what’s standard?
A grazing table, bubbles, and a mix of sweet and savoury bites are the go-to. Think quiches, cupcakes, cheese boards, and maybe even a custom cake. You don’t need to serve a full meal, but make sure there’s enough to soak up the champagne. Dietary options should be catered for, especially if you know you’ve got vegetarians or gluten-free guests in the mix.
Do guests need to RSVP?
Yes, please. RSVP-ing on time helps the host organise catering, seating and gift planning. Even if you’re unsure until closer to the date, a quick text to let them know where you stand is appreciated.
Bridal showers in Australia are becoming more personalised, more relaxed, and more about celebrating the bride’s unique style and relationships. Whether you’re hosting or attending, a little etiquette goes a long way in making the day joyful, respectful and unforgettable.
